Apparently being able to empathise is an ability that people with Aspergers is bereft of. This has been confirmed by my long suffering wife and partner. When she needs a person to lean on, have an arm placed around her, and general comforting, I am afraid that I can be found wanting. This I hasten to add, is not because I don't care, feel the pain, anguish or upset, it's because I can't express or I struggle to show my feelings and yes to empathise.
Two people spoke to me this weekend and both expressed, what was for me, surprising problems they were experiencing. I feel really flattered that these two wonderful people have told me of their issues, I just hope that I can find the right way, words, thoughts and emotions to help these people. I go through these periods of self doubt, but am determined to do whatever I can for both of my friends. Like I have already said it is not that I care, because I do passionately, It's just that my body language, in the shape of its awkwardness, and also what appears to be an uninterested and dispassionate persona gives off bad vibes. What I am also very conscious of is my selfishness in going on about my problems and neglecting others. This is probably down to self indulgence and if I go on about myself I won't have my shortcomings in the empathy stakes show. So particularly to the two people I have already referred to I am sorry. I and swear that I will do what I can for you.
Anyway, enough of that. Now that I seem to have built up a rather long list of to reads, here are a few of them;
Gladys Mitchell-Dance to your Daddy
Gladys Mitchell-Death of a burrowing Mole
Marion Babson-The twelve deaths of Christmas
Anthony Gilbert-Riddle of a Lady
Margery Allingham-Hide my Eyes
David Roberts-Bones of the buried
Ngaio Marsh-Off with his head
M.C. Beaton-The Walkers of Dembley
Here are my 2 beautiful rescue cats, Shady and Sadie.
Sadie is the short haired.